Archive from December, 2012

Overlooking the Positive Points in Your Life

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. It was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Dear Hubby's Delicious Coffee

Number 9 | Overlooking the Positive Points in Your Life

The key to true happiness is that it starts right here and right now. You have to be happy with yourself and your life at this very moment. Happiness is not based on future what ifs. One of the easiest ways to be happy and appreciate what you have in life is to have an attitude of gratitude. You will have a hard time being happy if you are not thankful for the good things in your life right now. Sure, there are times when life gets pretty average and it can be a struggle to think of anything good. But spending time daily either writing down or thinking of these good things in your life can instantly improve your mood and put you in a positive frame of mind.

One of the ways I have maintained this attitude of gratitude in the past is by being accountable on social networks. For me, to create a positive start to 2012, I wrote a daily post of Facebook with what I was grateful for. This could be anything from small pleasures like my husband making me a delicious coffee in the morning, to something major like being grateful for having a reliable form of transport so I could get to work or spending special time with my family or friends.

Life is really like a choose your own adventure book. Only you can choose the direction you take, the decisions that make up your life as it currently is, and the way you react to negative situations that inevitably pop up. It can be a constant struggle, but at least by putting positive thoughts out there, you can move forward towards the life you really want.

As a side note, “The Opposite of Happiness is Boredom” from Tim Ferriss in The Four Hour Work Week

Down time or quiet time is not boredom, it is a time to take stock of your life and appreciate what you have. Boredom though, often comes about through a lack of fun, games and adventure. As an adult, we are often very serious and have many stresses and pressures that we can forget to have fun. If you find yourself having little to appreciate, schedule some fun into your life. Time with friends and family, a sport that you enjoy, a funny movie, whatever it takes to put a smile on your face. This is different for everyone, so find out what excites you then do it.

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

Making Excuses Rather than Decisions

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Number 8 | Making Excuses Rather than Decisions

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. Dale Carnegie

Making excuses is very similar to procrastination. You think you can justify your lack of action by coming up with every ‘reason’ under the sun as to why you can’t do it. Rather than setting goals that matter to you, putting them into a Dreamline perspective and taking steps to make things happen in your life, you put it off. You know what happens then, you get 5 years down the track and wonder why you haven’t moved forward.

The only person who you hurt with excuses and procrastination is yourself. TWEET THIS

People often make excuses because the situation in front of them looks like a mountain. It is easier to do nothing (and try to justify it) than to take the first step. The thing is, most long term failures are the outcome of people who make excuses rather than decisions. So to move forward, you need to ask yourself “What needs to happen now?”. There are essentially two answers to this question. Something, or nothing. Only you can answer that. For all the whinging and whining about not getting anywhere in life, most people choose nothing.

If you want to move forward and get closer to the life you want, you need to choose to do something. Designing your life is harder than just letting things happen. It means that you are participating at a higher level than most people. If you choose to make positive change in your life, then you are actively committing to learning more about yourself, your business, and your own perceived limitations. Dreamlines are about your fairly immediate future, whereas your desired life is about your dream of your future. You need to know the greater version of your desired life intrinsically and work backwards from there. You also need to know your Dreamlines and create To Do steps to move towards your dream lifestyle. To give you an example of this, here is the current flow of my life:

My Current Life Flow. Dreamlining in action

All you need to do is substitute my desires, dreamlines and goals with your own and start making progress. Then and only then will you start moving forward in life.

As Dale Carnegie said, “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.”

 

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

Running Away from Your Problems

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Number 7 | Running Away from Your Problems

Running away from your problems

Are you running away from your problems or towards them?

“Running away from your problems is a race you will never win” TWEET THIS

It is easy for me to sit here and say just face your problems head on, and overcome them. In other words, get over it. I am sure you may have heard that before. The trouble is, it won’t help you one iota.

When you are deeply entangled in a particular problem, or even a multitude of problems, it is like being stuck in a spiders web. It is all encompassing. You can feel like you will never move forward or get out of it. So you need to face your problems head on to move forward and have the life you truly want. In the words of Ty Bowes – “Resignation and ‘quiet desperation’ are not living”.

So where do you start? 

Devote some time to considering your situation and pinpointing the actual issues. This can be harder than you think. Sometimes problems are obvious such as addictions, overwhelming debt, an awful marriage or any number of real and evident problems. Other times it can be a niggling concern that you can’t quite identify. Take some time out and work hard to determine your problems. It only then that you can start working towards a positive outcome.

Don’t deceive yourself. Whilst it may seem simple to put on an external persona that you think the world wants to see, your heart will know the truth. Trying to live a double life is the basis of massive internal personal conflict. Do not go through your life living a lie. Being truthful with yourself is the greatest way to move forward.

Ask for help if you need it. This can be either personal or professional. You are not a failure if you need help to get through an issue. In fact, it indicates that you are more committed to making positive change in your life.

When working towards successfully breaking through your problems, don’t try to do too much at once. Small, but rock-solid steps are much more effective than large but superficial leaps.

Reward yourself for taking on minor challenges and actually winning.

Also understand that big problems can feel like a mountain in front of you and they will take time to work through. Kind of like eating an elephant – you can only take one bite at a time.

Lastly, be kind to yourself.

What problems have you overcome in your life that have allowed you to move forward? Comment below.

 

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

Your Need to be Right

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

The best things in life don’t come from being right

Number 6 | Your Need to be Right

To move forward in life you really need to pick your battles. When you are always trying to be right, it makes it very difficult to learn new things and progress towards your chosen lifestyle. It is not worth ending important relationships with the people you love because you feel you always have to be right. It is a very fast way to alienate friends and colleagues as well.

It is fine to be passionate about what you’re doing and to want a better life for yourself. Being driven and determined are not bad traits to have. But always being aggressive and argumentative is not the way to treat your immediate friends and family.

The people close to you are your support network. They are the ones that helps keep you balanced when you are trying to make progress. It is okay to be wrong and it is okay to get some constructive criticism. Receiving feedback from those around you is a great way to grow within yourself and get new ideas for your life. However, continually arguing and trying to bring others down around you will move you backwards faster than you can blink.

Always trying to be right is not the way to move yourself towards to an improved version of your life. CLICK TO TWEET

A little bit of compromise and grace will go a long way to helping you having the life you desire. It will make those around you feel more comfortable and you will be more comfortable with your decisions. You deserve the best in life and you deserve every chance for success in the world. But you don’t always have to be right.

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

Choosing to Do Nothing

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Trying to Keep up with the Jones's

Number 5 | Choosing to Do Nothing

This might seem pretty obvious, but if you do nothing, nothing will change in your life. And if nothing changes, you can’t move forward.

Every day is a new chance to choose. And despite the fact that you might think you don’t have a choice, in fact you do. Every choice does have consequences though. For instance, you might think you have no choice but to go to work each day. But you do. You are making a conscious choice to work, and that provides the things you both need and want. You might choose to invest your spare money, or you might choose to use that money to go out to dinner every second night. You might have no disposable income, but you may have chosen to buy or rent a large house that you can’t afford. The list is endless.

If you choose to do nothing, you cannot expect anything to change. TWEET THIS

You have to do the work. It is amazing how many people expect their life to change without doing anything to make it happen. To create change for yourself, you need to become a master manifester. Be driven. Work hard. Believe in yourself and your dreams. Have a one minded focus to get what you really want. It will not happen quickly, nothing ever does.

You have got to drive change if you want change to happen. Personally I am a firm believer in a combination of fate (things happen for a reason) and driving change through deliberate choice.

As for excuses, there are none. We are all guilty of making them.  At the end of the day though, all of us have every opportunity to make something of our lives. Starting now.

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

Procrastinating about the Goals that Matter

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Procrastination - Do it

Number 4 | Procrastinating About the Goals that Matter

 

Here is a hard fact. You only have one life. And it is short.

You need to ask yourself:

* What are the goals that matter to you?

* Are you actually Dreamlining – like really writing down your dreams and goals?

* Have you added a date to every single one of your Dreamlines?

* Have you sat down and worked out how much your Dreamlines will cost you?

* Are your goals important enough to actually do something about them?

My guess is, if you aren’t getting any closer, then the answer is no. Even if your Dreamlines take longer than the time you have allocated to them, so what? At least you are making progress, not procrastinating.

I can tell you that I have been procrastinating about my business. Nothing else in life, just that.

So you and I have two choices.

  1. Accept conditions as they exist (and die of terminal boredom) or

  1. Accept responsibility for your life as it is now, and start taking steps to pull your life inline with your goals

By the way, here is a tip: only Dreamline and write goals that will lead you to live an inspired life. A life that you have designed to suit YOU. This is not selfish. You owe it to yourself to feel completely fulfilled by your Dreamlines.

If your biggest Dreamline in life is to be a hammock tester, then figure out how you are going to do that. If you want to work less than 20 hours a week so you can spend time with your family, then Dreamline a way to achieve it. Your goals are yours and yours alone. Not anyone else’s. You might have to make some tough choices to be able to achieve the Dreamlines that really excite you. Look at ways you can manipulate reality to achieve what you want.

So what are the goals that matter to you? Have you been procrastinating? What are you going to do now to make your Dreamlines happen?

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

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