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Not Appreciating the Present Moment

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. It was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Sun Rays Shining over the Ocean

Imagine this image over land not sea – stunning!

Number 10 | Not Appreciating the Present Moment

The greatest part of life is made up of the little things. Each precious moment that you are here on earth is an absolute blessing. It can be difficult to remember to “stop and smell the roses” at times, especially when a busy life, job and family calls. It is so important to stop and take stock of moments regularly.

There is a forgotten art in appreciating all that your life is offering you. Have you told that special person lately that you love them? How long has it been since you went barefoot and enjoyed the sensation of being out of shoes? When did you last daydream and think of all the things you have enjoyed and appreciated? When did you last have a long meal with friends and laughed so hard you nearly burst?

We are often so busy striving for success, ensuring that we are achieving and maintaining what we think is expected of us at work or at home. Thing is, we seldom remember to enjoy the moment.

I remember one time I was on the long drive home from work when suddenly the clouds split and the sun’s rays shone from one end of the earth to the other. I pulled the car over and just watched the sky turn it on in amazement. It was pure beauty.

Another time whilst driving home, I could literally see the “highways” in the sky. Four northbound jet streams and three southbound ones. I must confess, I have a bit of a thing for jet streams and this day was sensational. I damn near ran off the road watching them.

There are plenty of small things in life that can brighten up even the crappiest of days. Share your thanks and appreciation when someone does something for you and makes your day a little better. Another top tip is to find a quiet spot for 5 – 10 minutes a day and think about the wonderful things in your life. Take more time if you can. Pick a time of day that you love for your personal time. Me, I love the stillness of late evening, when all distractions are gone and everything is quiet.

Having something to look forward to in life can really help you take joy in the journey. Whether it is something small like doing your favorite activity on your next day off, or something major like buying a house or taking a vacation. These drivers in your life give you something to work towards and can help you appreciate the mundane moments in time.

Personally, I have an exciting year coming up. But right now I am concentrating on doing a great job in my current temporary work position. Whilst I don’t like the early morning starts, every day I appreciate that this work is allowing me the opportunity to travel very soon.

(My Mini Retirement is inspired by Tim Ferriss and The Four Hour Work Week)

 

 

 

 

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

Overlooking the Positive Points in Your Life

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. It was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Dear Hubby's Delicious Coffee

Number 9 | Overlooking the Positive Points in Your Life

The key to true happiness is that it starts right here and right now. You have to be happy with yourself and your life at this very moment. Happiness is not based on future what ifs. One of the easiest ways to be happy and appreciate what you have in life is to have an attitude of gratitude. You will have a hard time being happy if you are not thankful for the good things in your life right now. Sure, there are times when life gets pretty average and it can be a struggle to think of anything good. But spending time daily either writing down or thinking of these good things in your life can instantly improve your mood and put you in a positive frame of mind.

One of the ways I have maintained this attitude of gratitude in the past is by being accountable on social networks. For me, to create a positive start to 2012, I wrote a daily post of Facebook with what I was grateful for. This could be anything from small pleasures like my husband making me a delicious coffee in the morning, to something major like being grateful for having a reliable form of transport so I could get to work or spending special time with my family or friends.

Life is really like a choose your own adventure book. Only you can choose the direction you take, the decisions that make up your life as it currently is, and the way you react to negative situations that inevitably pop up. It can be a constant struggle, but at least by putting positive thoughts out there, you can move forward towards the life you really want.

As a side note, “The Opposite of Happiness is Boredom” from Tim Ferriss in The Four Hour Work Week

Down time or quiet time is not boredom, it is a time to take stock of your life and appreciate what you have. Boredom though, often comes about through a lack of fun, games and adventure. As an adult, we are often very serious and have many stresses and pressures that we can forget to have fun. If you find yourself having little to appreciate, schedule some fun into your life. Time with friends and family, a sport that you enjoy, a funny movie, whatever it takes to put a smile on your face. This is different for everyone, so find out what excites you then do it.

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

Making Excuses Rather than Decisions

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Number 8 | Making Excuses Rather than Decisions

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. Dale Carnegie

Making excuses is very similar to procrastination. You think you can justify your lack of action by coming up with every ‘reason’ under the sun as to why you can’t do it. Rather than setting goals that matter to you, putting them into a Dreamline perspective and taking steps to make things happen in your life, you put it off. You know what happens then, you get 5 years down the track and wonder why you haven’t moved forward.

The only person who you hurt with excuses and procrastination is yourself. TWEET THIS

People often make excuses because the situation in front of them looks like a mountain. It is easier to do nothing (and try to justify it) than to take the first step. The thing is, most long term failures are the outcome of people who make excuses rather than decisions. So to move forward, you need to ask yourself “What needs to happen now?”. There are essentially two answers to this question. Something, or nothing. Only you can answer that. For all the whinging and whining about not getting anywhere in life, most people choose nothing.

If you want to move forward and get closer to the life you want, you need to choose to do something. Designing your life is harder than just letting things happen. It means that you are participating at a higher level than most people. If you choose to make positive change in your life, then you are actively committing to learning more about yourself, your business, and your own perceived limitations. Dreamlines are about your fairly immediate future, whereas your desired life is about your dream of your future. You need to know the greater version of your desired life intrinsically and work backwards from there. You also need to know your Dreamlines and create To Do steps to move towards your dream lifestyle. To give you an example of this, here is the current flow of my life:

My Current Life Flow. Dreamlining in action

All you need to do is substitute my desires, dreamlines and goals with your own and start making progress. Then and only then will you start moving forward in life.

As Dale Carnegie said, “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.”

 

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

Running Away from Your Problems

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Number 7 | Running Away from Your Problems

Running away from your problems

Are you running away from your problems or towards them?

“Running away from your problems is a race you will never win” TWEET THIS

It is easy for me to sit here and say just face your problems head on, and overcome them. In other words, get over it. I am sure you may have heard that before. The trouble is, it won’t help you one iota.

When you are deeply entangled in a particular problem, or even a multitude of problems, it is like being stuck in a spiders web. It is all encompassing. You can feel like you will never move forward or get out of it. So you need to face your problems head on to move forward and have the life you truly want. In the words of Ty Bowes – “Resignation and ‘quiet desperation’ are not living”.

So where do you start? 

Devote some time to considering your situation and pinpointing the actual issues. This can be harder than you think. Sometimes problems are obvious such as addictions, overwhelming debt, an awful marriage or any number of real and evident problems. Other times it can be a niggling concern that you can’t quite identify. Take some time out and work hard to determine your problems. It only then that you can start working towards a positive outcome.

Don’t deceive yourself. Whilst it may seem simple to put on an external persona that you think the world wants to see, your heart will know the truth. Trying to live a double life is the basis of massive internal personal conflict. Do not go through your life living a lie. Being truthful with yourself is the greatest way to move forward.

Ask for help if you need it. This can be either personal or professional. You are not a failure if you need help to get through an issue. In fact, it indicates that you are more committed to making positive change in your life.

When working towards successfully breaking through your problems, don’t try to do too much at once. Small, but rock-solid steps are much more effective than large but superficial leaps.

Reward yourself for taking on minor challenges and actually winning.

Also understand that big problems can feel like a mountain in front of you and they will take time to work through. Kind of like eating an elephant – you can only take one bite at a time.

Lastly, be kind to yourself.

What problems have you overcome in your life that have allowed you to move forward? Comment below.

 

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

Your Need to be Right

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

The best things in life don’t come from being right

Number 6 | Your Need to be Right

To move forward in life you really need to pick your battles. When you are always trying to be right, it makes it very difficult to learn new things and progress towards your chosen lifestyle. It is not worth ending important relationships with the people you love because you feel you always have to be right. It is a very fast way to alienate friends and colleagues as well.

It is fine to be passionate about what you’re doing and to want a better life for yourself. Being driven and determined are not bad traits to have. But always being aggressive and argumentative is not the way to treat your immediate friends and family.

The people close to you are your support network. They are the ones that helps keep you balanced when you are trying to make progress. It is okay to be wrong and it is okay to get some constructive criticism. Receiving feedback from those around you is a great way to grow within yourself and get new ideas for your life. However, continually arguing and trying to bring others down around you will move you backwards faster than you can blink.

Always trying to be right is not the way to move yourself towards to an improved version of your life. CLICK TO TWEET

A little bit of compromise and grace will go a long way to helping you having the life you desire. It will make those around you feel more comfortable and you will be more comfortable with your decisions. You deserve the best in life and you deserve every chance for success in the world. But you don’t always have to be right.

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

Choosing to Do Nothing

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Trying to Keep up with the Jones's

Number 5 | Choosing to Do Nothing

This might seem pretty obvious, but if you do nothing, nothing will change in your life. And if nothing changes, you can’t move forward.

Every day is a new chance to choose. And despite the fact that you might think you don’t have a choice, in fact you do. Every choice does have consequences though. For instance, you might think you have no choice but to go to work each day. But you do. You are making a conscious choice to work, and that provides the things you both need and want. You might choose to invest your spare money, or you might choose to use that money to go out to dinner every second night. You might have no disposable income, but you may have chosen to buy or rent a large house that you can’t afford. The list is endless.

If you choose to do nothing, you cannot expect anything to change. TWEET THIS

You have to do the work. It is amazing how many people expect their life to change without doing anything to make it happen. To create change for yourself, you need to become a master manifester. Be driven. Work hard. Believe in yourself and your dreams. Have a one minded focus to get what you really want. It will not happen quickly, nothing ever does.

You have got to drive change if you want change to happen. Personally I am a firm believer in a combination of fate (things happen for a reason) and driving change through deliberate choice.

As for excuses, there are none. We are all guilty of making them.  At the end of the day though, all of us have every opportunity to make something of our lives. Starting now.

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

Procrastinating about the Goals that Matter

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Procrastination - Do it

Number 4 | Procrastinating About the Goals that Matter

 

Here is a hard fact. You only have one life. And it is short.

You need to ask yourself:

* What are the goals that matter to you?

* Are you actually Dreamlining – like really writing down your dreams and goals?

* Have you added a date to every single one of your Dreamlines?

* Have you sat down and worked out how much your Dreamlines will cost you?

* Are your goals important enough to actually do something about them?

My guess is, if you aren’t getting any closer, then the answer is no. Even if your Dreamlines take longer than the time you have allocated to them, so what? At least you are making progress, not procrastinating.

I can tell you that I have been procrastinating about my business. Nothing else in life, just that.

So you and I have two choices.

  1. Accept conditions as they exist (and die of terminal boredom) or

  1. Accept responsibility for your life as it is now, and start taking steps to pull your life inline with your goals

By the way, here is a tip: only Dreamline and write goals that will lead you to live an inspired life. A life that you have designed to suit YOU. This is not selfish. You owe it to yourself to feel completely fulfilled by your Dreamlines.

If your biggest Dreamline in life is to be a hammock tester, then figure out how you are going to do that. If you want to work less than 20 hours a week so you can spend time with your family, then Dreamline a way to achieve it. Your goals are yours and yours alone. Not anyone else’s. You might have to make some tough choices to be able to achieve the Dreamlines that really excite you. Look at ways you can manipulate reality to achieve what you want.

So what are the goals that matter to you? Have you been procrastinating? What are you going to do now to make your Dreamlines happen?

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

Being Indecisive About What You Want

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Being Indecisive About What You Want

10 Things you Must Give Up to Move Forward – Being Indecisive About What You Want

Number 3 | Being Indecisive About What You Want

You will never move forward or improve anything until you have decided where you would rather be. Figure out what you want and then pursue it passionately.

If you are unsure of where to start, try answering these questions:

  • What is one thing you want to do daily?
  • What is one thing you must do before you die – a once in a lifetime experience?
  • Where is the place you have always wanted to live?
  • What is something you have always wanted to do but have never prioritized?
  • How do you want to generate cash flow?

 

Sometimes your circumstances can cause frustration. You know what you want, but it feels out of reach. I have often had times in my own life like these. So how do you get around it? Be absolutely single minded and driven to get where you want to be….and keep going….now you are getting closer.

Don’t forget to tell your story in the comments below – what are you being indecisive about in your life?

 

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

The Shame of Past Failures

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Caution Epic Personal Failure

10 Things you Must Give Up to Move Forward –The Shame of Past Failures

Number 2 | The Shame of Past Failures

Your future life has nothing to do with your past. Your past has shaped you into the person you are today, but your future lies in the person you create starting right now. So here is the burning question. Who do you want to be?

Now what actions are you going to take to get to that point? Most of us will have to deal with the consequences of our previous decisions. But there is no reason not to start moving towards your future self right now. You owe it to yourself to be absolutely one minded and driven to create a life that is of your own design.

If you have no idea where to start, try some of these ideas

  • Set dates – if there are things that need to be completed, put together a plan and set dates to make it happen
  • Deal with things – stop being an ostrich and get your head out of the sand. You need to face the music, suck it up and get on with it. Ask for help, get the support you need and move on.
  • Dreamline – writing down your dreamlines gives you a clear view of what you want. Think: BE-DO-HAVE
  • Bucket list – putting together your bucket list will give you some inspiration to achieve greater things

 

I have had my own failures in life, but at the moment I have 2 major blockages.

The first is my debt. I feel like it is a mountain, but in reality it isn’t. It is just something I need to allocate cash flow to service. Nothing more, nothing less.

My second blockage is making excuses not to move forward with my business and continually second guessing myself about whether it is a good idea or not. For this, I need to set dates and make it happen.

I would love for you to share your story of your future self and some of your struggles in the comments.

 

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

Letting the Options of Others Control Your Life

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Listen to your Heart

10 Things you Must Give Up to Move Forward – Letting the Opinion of Others Control your Life

Number 1 | Letting the Options of Others Control your Life

This is the first on the list and of the whole list, this one resonated with me the most. I often feel torn between the life I truly want and the life that I feel is expected of me. Here’s the thing, I am scared of what my family will think. I don’t care about what anyone else thinks, except my family. They say that they just want us to be happy, and I am sure they do. But it seems that they want us to be happy on their terms not ours. Neither my husband or I want to be in the one job for 20 years. At the moment I love the temp work that I am doing. I feel like I am saving money towards travel at a rate of knots, and I am learning new skills too. I just don’t want to do it forever. I want to build my business and take a 3 month break or longer next year to do it. I would love it if the income from my business could support me and I had control over my finances and future, not someone else. I have built my business idea “backwards” – started with the end in mind.

I want to have complete freedom of location to be able to either be at home to spend time with family and friends, or live overseas for a few months at a time. I will always want to come home, it is a great spot to hang – but I yearn for adventure too. Seeing new things, tasting new foods and experiencing all the cultures the world has to offer. I get itchy feet if I am on the ground too long.

I might want to have it all. I might have unrealistic expectations of what I can achieve, but I listen to the people who are living aspects of my dream life and I feel like I am not alone.

Deep down, I don’t want my family to disapprove of me for making the choices to live the life I want. I don’t expect them to understand, but I would love their support. So how do I move on from this? Well for starters I am going to do it all anyway regardless.

I do think that my ideas are worth pursing and I do think that ultimately they will lead me in the direction that I expect they will. My absolute motivation for all of these life decisions is to spend time with the people I love – my friends and family, and most of all, my husband.

All we have in this world is the time we have left, nothing more nothing less. As I mentioned in my previous post about The Universe, at the end of my time on earth, no one will care how much money I have or don’t. No one will care about my career or any of my other decisions that have lead me to the life I have chosen. The only thing that anyone will care about is the time I spent with them while I was alive, because that is what they will remember. And so there is every reason on earth to pursue the life I want, so I can give that back to the people I choose to care about and spend time with. And that includes my family…

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

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