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Taking the Plunge with a One Way Ticket

One Way Ticket to Asia

One Way Ticket to Asia

Sorry for the lack of posts lately, but the past few weeks have been a bit of a blur. A whirlwind of visiting friends, some delightful small gatherings and final farewells with relatives. We had a massive wedding on hubby’s side of the family which was a fantastic way to catch up with everyone and tell them our crazy plans. Plus, we both overindulged with way too much food and wine thrown into the mix. If I remember rightly, I hiccuped and giggled all the way back from the wedding reception. By my side was hubby chuckling softly and shushing me to be quiet. Yeah right. I just increased the intensity of hiccups and giggles in the middle of a still night. The other hotel guests must have wondered what the silly bunch of noises were that emanated across the ground. It has been a riot of fun capped off with a weekend in Sydney with our closest friend prior to flying out on Monday 11 March – one way ticket in hand.

The only way to really describe how I have felt in these past weeks though is from Seinfeld.

(Kramer) “I’m freaking right out here Jerry!”

Surely you have had this type of lead up to a big life event. Super excited one minute, and totally flipping out the next. When a gigantic life change is about to happen, it is usually accompanied by mixed emotions.  In my mind, this is a massive change. I have temporarily given up a great life for the hope of an even greater one.

For me taking the plunge, and the time, I have been pining for over the past 18 months to finally work in my business is monumental. It means that I need to move my business from a pipe dream to a reality. There is a mountain of work and adjustment in front of me, in front of both of us, as we adjust to this new life. Going overseas but not going on holidays is quite bizarre. No activities to plan, no Pina Coladas by the ocean, no shopping ‘til you drop, no over indulgences  It doesn’t have that same vacation anticipation. In many ways that is a good thing. Whilst I always feel like a tourist in a foreign country, I still want to absorb myself into the culture and get to know the locals, not just go nuts for 7 days and come home exhausted.

My motivation is that I want the lifestyle of earning my income from my laptop. This lifestyle means different things to different people. For me it means time to spend with family and friends, and time to travel on a flexible schedule and see the world. Many times I have sat down and thought about the alternatives such as working temp jobs and saving to go on extended trips. It could work, but it doesn’t hold the same appeal in my eyes.

What would this type of lifestyle mean to you?

Feb 13, 2013 - Fear Setting    3 Comments

Holy smokes Batman, I just had an epiphany

Costa Rica Toucan

Holy smokes Batman, I just had an epiphany. One could call it a brain fart, but in fact it was far more intelligent than that. At least I think so.

I would never admit that I am middle aged, merely thirty, flirty and thriving. OK maybe thirty something. Plus a little bit. And maybe only flirty with my hubby and a little cheeky with everyone else. Thriving? Hell yeah and loving it.

Occasionally my crazy little thirty something brain goes into overdrive. You would think I was an introvert. Someone who contemplates a lot. Actually  I am, but I digress. The thought of retirement scares the bejeezers out of me. In fact, to put it out there to the world, I don’t believe in retirement. (I do still believe in Santa Clause though because if you don’t he doesn’t come). I prefer to slide through life slightly sideways and enjoy mini retirements. I have been upping the ante on these. A two month retirement, and a four month one, with a couple of nasty little two week holidays thrown in. Actually these can be kinda fun because you can go all hell for leather and do everything all at once. And NOW there is the delightful little one way ticket that I hold in my hand ready for departure in a smidge under a month. Looooonnnnngggggggg mini retirement here we come.

Focus Bec!…How is it that I keep digressing? Are you sure you aren’t out there being all sneaky and throwing around bright and shiny objects at me?

So, back to my epiphany. I had a teeny little freak out a month or so back. It went something along the lines of this:

“So, you are nearly 40 you know, what about retirement. You just aren’t planning for your future.” Then there is this long and boring conversation about cash flow, pensions, saving for retirement. Blah blah blah. My brain switched itself off immediately as you can well imagine. It is not that I am an ignorant biatch, I just didn’t feel inclined to buy into someone else’s fears. And nearly 40? Not in my head. Then the foolish brain waves started and I did buy into the fear. Albeit briefly.

The remedy?

Firstly there was a phone call to my older sister. She is a bit of a hippy and was like “who cares about retirement – just go have fun. I couldn’t give flying fluff about it. Planning? Hell no”. I immediately loved her even more at this point.

Secondly, I heard Natalie from the Suitcase Entrepreneur interview Nadine Hays Pisani from Happier than a Billionaire. WOW light bulb moment. I read Nadine’s book “Happier Than a Billionaire: Quitting My Job, Moving to Costa Rica, and Living the Zero Hour Work Week” about 18 months ago and clearly missed the crucial element of the book: The Zero Hour Work Week. The bit where she tells the devious little secret that divulges how she could live in Costa Rica working zero hours. Seriously I can be that stupid. In the podcast interview however, it was all so clear. Her and hubby sold everything, the business, the house, the whole shebang and moved to Costa Rica. Selling her stuff meant ten years of living in Costa Rica without working a single hour. 10 YEARS!!!!!!!!!!! Can’t believe I didn’t put two and two together – dumbass. That got me thinking…

I whipped out the calculator, Excel was overkill for this kind of excitement, and tallied it up if hubby and I were to do the same. The answer came out at 21.5 years.

I was stunned.

That estimate hadn’t even taken into account compulsory retirement savings that are forced in Australia through Superannuation (401K if you are doing it American Style – I have no idea what the equivalent is in Gangnam Style…. PSY might know).

Now I am not saying that I am going to sell everything and move to Costa Rica, though it would be nice. Being blissfully married means a certain level of compromise and a groovy travel partner who also happens to double nicely as a 6’4” bodyguard. This newfound information immediately made me feel deliriously happy about the future. All of my concerns about the immense changes in our life this year magically faded. In fact, I bounced in the door after work with a big fat grin on my face. I am sure hubby thought I must have been possessed by Tigger. And he might just be right

Feb 10, 2013 - Fear Setting    3 Comments

Take Life by the Balls

Taking Life by the Balls

Have you seen the expressionless crowd of faces?

I see this scene around me here at work. Team mates just going through the motions. Barely a smile. Barely even acknowledgement that those around them exist. Their quiet, hushed conversations can be heard if you listen intently. Their last day of work will be the beginning of their life. Ahhh the promised land of retirement. That sunny, golden place that makes their tired eyes light up and their heart skip a beat with pure joy. The glorious day that they can finally start living life.

Waking up on their first day of retirement, they realize that many of the beautiful dreams they once had, are now impossible for whatever reason. Retirement becomes a time of regrets, of ‘I wish I had done’ moments. Of lost opportunities and broken dreams and promises. I can’t tell you how many times I have seen it or how it makes me feel.

This whole heart wrenching scene is the reason why I am reaching out to the world. I want my readers to start taking life by the balls, and even giving a bit of a tight squeeze just so it is a little uncomfortable, instead of suffering from ‘what if’.

People all over the world, ordinary everyday people, are embracing the discomfort, facing their fear, and charging towards fulfilling their dreams. No rich family. No massive inheritance. No golden handshake. Just a deep urge to make a positive change in their life.

The one certainty in life – death – is inching ever closer. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but frankly some people just kind of forget that today or tomorrow could be their last day on earth. Tell me, if you knew the exact day you were going to die, and it was sooner than you imagined, what would you change?

Transformation can be immediate, or they might take a little fine tuning and a little time to plan. But you can adjust your mindset now and move towards the life you have always dreamed of.

Take life by the balls. Make your dreams happen.

Nov 18, 2012 - Fear Setting    2 Comments

How to Take Charge of your Life in the Next Six Months

 Making a big life change is pretty scary. But, know what's even scarier? Regret

If you could do anything in the next 6 months to change your life what would it be? What would be a Dreamline so far out of your comfort zone that it would scare you half to death if you actually did it? A Dreamline so big that your life would change one way or another? 
I have been thinking about this today. My life, actually our life, is at a crossroads. 
For me, if I spent six months working solidly on my digital scrapbooking business and other income producing ideas, I would know if there was a chance that my businesses would succeed or not. Even scarier is, what if I wasn’t successful? My whole direction in life would have to change. I do want to be my own boss and create my own income. I know in my heart that online business is the way for me – I am not interested in a bricks and mortar business. So for me, six months of solid uninterrupted work would be the make or break dreamline. I would know if I had a chance at this game. What if my Dreamline Diary website took off and I could help people like you move closer to your dreams? What if I was truly helping you change your life? What if my digital scrapbooking store made me an income that I could live off? 
For my husband, he has had such huge changes in his life with his injury and he hasn’t worked for the past six months. The concept of doing something way out of his comfort zone to make an income would be a massive change. He too would like to be in control of his own future income, but he has no idea of where and how to start. 
For us, the answer is to fear set. Write down the worst and best possible outcomes of our situation, and if the chance of a positive outcome outweighs the chance of a negative outcome (and we can continue to survive and pay bills) then we owe it to ourselves to do it. Take the challenge and have a decent crack at it. 
So tell me, have you ever made a massive life changing decision? Created a goal or dreamline that was so far removed from your previous ideas in life that your world wasn’t the same after your success? Share your story in the comments below – tell us how you have taken charge of your life.