I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.
Number 1 | Letting the Options of Others Control your Life
This is the first on the list and of the whole list, this one resonated with me the most. I often feel torn between the life I truly want and the life that I feel is expected of me. Here’s the thing, I am scared of what my family will think. I don’t care about what anyone else thinks, except my family. They say that they just want us to be happy, and I am sure they do. But it seems that they want us to be happy on their terms not ours. Neither my husband or I want to be in the one job for 20 years. At the moment I love the temp work that I am doing. I feel like I am saving money towards travel at a rate of knots, and I am learning new skills too. I just don’t want to do it forever. I want to build my business and take a 3 month break or longer next year to do it. I would love it if the income from my business could support me and I had control over my finances and future, not someone else. I have built my business idea “backwards” – started with the end in mind.
I want to have complete freedom of location to be able to either be at home to spend time with family and friends, or live overseas for a few months at a time. I will always want to come home, it is a great spot to hang – but I yearn for adventure too. Seeing new things, tasting new foods and experiencing all the cultures the world has to offer. I get itchy feet if I am on the ground too long.
I might want to have it all. I might have unrealistic expectations of what I can achieve, but I listen to the people who are living aspects of my dream life and I feel like I am not alone.
Deep down, I don’t want my family to disapprove of me for making the choices to live the life I want. I don’t expect them to understand, but I would love their support. So how do I move on from this? Well for starters I am going to do it all anyway regardless.
I do think that my ideas are worth pursing and I do think that ultimately they will lead me in the direction that I expect they will. My absolute motivation for all of these life decisions is to spend time with the people I love – my friends and family, and most of all, my husband.
All we have in this world is the time we have left, nothing more nothing less. As I mentioned in my previous post about The Universe, at the end of my time on earth, no one will care how much money I have or don’t. No one will care about my career or any of my other decisions that have lead me to the life I have chosen. The only thing that anyone will care about is the time I spent with them while I was alive, because that is what they will remember. And so there is every reason on earth to pursue the life I want, so I can give that back to the people I choose to care about and spend time with. And that includes my family…