I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. It was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.
Number 9 | Overlooking the Positive Points in Your Life
The key to true happiness is that it starts right here and right now. You have to be happy with yourself and your life at this very moment. Happiness is not based on future what ifs. One of the easiest ways to be happy and appreciate what you have in life is to have an attitude of gratitude. You will have a hard time being happy if you are not thankful for the good things in your life right now. Sure, there are times when life gets pretty average and it can be a struggle to think of anything good. But spending time daily either writing down or thinking of these good things in your life can instantly improve your mood and put you in a positive frame of mind.
One of the ways I have maintained this attitude of gratitude in the past is by being accountable on social networks. For me, to create a positive start to 2012, I wrote a daily post of Facebook with what I was grateful for. This could be anything from small pleasures like my husband making me a delicious coffee in the morning, to something major like being grateful for having a reliable form of transport so I could get to work or spending special time with my family or friends.
Life is really like a choose your own adventure book. Only you can choose the direction you take, the decisions that make up your life as it currently is, and the way you react to negative situations that inevitably pop up. It can be a constant struggle, but at least by putting positive thoughts out there, you can move forward towards the life you really want.
As a side note, “The Opposite of Happiness is Boredom” from Tim Ferriss in The Four Hour Work Week
Down time or quiet time is not boredom, it is a time to take stock of your life and appreciate what you have. Boredom though, often comes about through a lack of fun, games and adventure. As an adult, we are often very serious and have many stresses and pressures that we can forget to have fun. If you find yourself having little to appreciate, schedule some fun into your life. Time with friends and family, a sport that you enjoy, a funny movie, whatever it takes to put a smile on your face. This is different for everyone, so find out what excites you then do it.