I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. it was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.
Number 7 | Running Away from Your Problems
“Running away from your problems is a race you will never win” TWEET THIS
It is easy for me to sit here and say just face your problems head on, and overcome them. In other words, get over it. I am sure you may have heard that before. The trouble is, it won’t help you one iota.
When you are deeply entangled in a particular problem, or even a multitude of problems, it is like being stuck in a spiders web. It is all encompassing. You can feel like you will never move forward or get out of it. So you need to face your problems head on to move forward and have the life you truly want. In the words of Ty Bowes – “Resignation and ‘quiet desperation’ are not living”.
So where do you start?
Devote some time to considering your situation and pinpointing the actual issues. This can be harder than you think. Sometimes problems are obvious such as addictions, overwhelming debt, an awful marriage or any number of real and evident problems. Other times it can be a niggling concern that you can’t quite identify. Take some time out and work hard to determine your problems. It only then that you can start working towards a positive outcome.
Don’t deceive yourself. Whilst it may seem simple to put on an external persona that you think the world wants to see, your heart will know the truth. Trying to live a double life is the basis of massive internal personal conflict. Do not go through your life living a lie. Being truthful with yourself is the greatest way to move forward.
Ask for help if you need it. This can be either personal or professional. You are not a failure if you need help to get through an issue. In fact, it indicates that you are more committed to making positive change in your life.
When working towards successfully breaking through your problems, don’t try to do too much at once. Small, but rock-solid steps are much more effective than large but superficial leaps.
Reward yourself for taking on minor challenges and actually winning.
Also understand that big problems can feel like a mountain in front of you and they will take time to work through. Kind of like eating an elephant – you can only take one bite at a time.
Lastly, be kind to yourself.
What problems have you overcome in your life that have allowed you to move forward? Comment below.