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May 16, 2013 - Making Positive Change    2 Comments

How to be Happy


How to be happy? Start Dreamlining

How to be Happy

Have you ever spent time wondering how to be happy? Is happiness like an illusion that keeps disappearing every time you get close? Finally, after years of wondering, I have finally found the answer.

And it was not what I thought it would be.

See, I am generally an optimistic person. The glass is always half full. But I have always been striving to be outrageously happy, and failing miserably.

Then last week, the answer came upon me.

Happiness is a fleeting illusion and here is why:

“Buddhists advocate that contentment is a more achievable state than happiness. If we reflect on the catalysts in our lives that have generated happiness, buying a new car, passing an exam, falling in love to name a few examples, I’m sure we would discover these states are temporary, impermanent and therefore … unsustainable.” Source: Addicted 2 Success

If you think about this for a few minutes, it makes perfect sense. Sugar highs only last for so long before we come crashing down. What I personally gained from this statement is that it is ok to be content. There is nothing wrong with it, and in fact, it is quite normal.

The Dreamlining Process and How to be Happy

One aspect of happiness that is really vital is to keep the baseline of contentment in check. Dreamlining can really help with this. We all have to go through some sort of daily grind, so making sure you are dreamlining, can really enhance the ‘baseline’ happiness in your life. If you are doing the things you love, becoming the person you want to be and working towards having the things you want in life, you will kick your level of contentment up a notch. There will always be spikes in happiness. It is only natural.

So, instead of telling you how to be happy, it is more important to tell you to start dreamlining to increase your general level of contentment. Learn how to Dreamline.

Share with us in the comments which dreamline you are going to tackle next.

p.s. I am tackling one of my dreamlines this month – studying web and graphic design…in Bangkok! I am doing my training with the delightful Carl at Web Courses Bangkok


Not Appreciating the Present Moment

I have been inspired by Marc and Angel’s 10 Things You Must Give up to Move Forward based on principles by Steven R Covey. It was shared by a very good friend of mine through Facebook. So I have decided to put myself out there and write my thoughts on each of the 10 things based on my personal experience and opinion.

Sun Rays Shining over the Ocean

Imagine this image over land not sea – stunning!

Number 10 | Not Appreciating the Present Moment

The greatest part of life is made up of the little things. Each precious moment that you are here on earth is an absolute blessing. It can be difficult to remember to “stop and smell the roses” at times, especially when a busy life, job and family calls. It is so important to stop and take stock of moments regularly.

There is a forgotten art in appreciating all that your life is offering you. Have you told that special person lately that you love them? How long has it been since you went barefoot and enjoyed the sensation of being out of shoes? When did you last daydream and think of all the things you have enjoyed and appreciated? When did you last have a long meal with friends and laughed so hard you nearly burst?

We are often so busy striving for success, ensuring that we are achieving and maintaining what we think is expected of us at work or at home. Thing is, we seldom remember to enjoy the moment.

I remember one time I was on the long drive home from work when suddenly the clouds split and the sun’s rays shone from one end of the earth to the other. I pulled the car over and just watched the sky turn it on in amazement. It was pure beauty.

Another time whilst driving home, I could literally see the “highways” in the sky. Four northbound jet streams and three southbound ones. I must confess, I have a bit of a thing for jet streams and this day was sensational. I damn near ran off the road watching them.

There are plenty of small things in life that can brighten up even the crappiest of days. Share your thanks and appreciation when someone does something for you and makes your day a little better. Another top tip is to find a quiet spot for 5 – 10 minutes a day and think about the wonderful things in your life. Take more time if you can. Pick a time of day that you love for your personal time. Me, I love the stillness of late evening, when all distractions are gone and everything is quiet.

Having something to look forward to in life can really help you take joy in the journey. Whether it is something small like doing your favorite activity on your next day off, or something major like buying a house or taking a vacation. These drivers in your life give you something to work towards and can help you appreciate the mundane moments in time.

Personally, I have an exciting year coming up. But right now I am concentrating on doing a great job in my current temporary work position. Whilst I don’t like the early morning starts, every day I appreciate that this work is allowing me the opportunity to travel very soon.

(My Mini Retirement is inspired by Tim Ferriss and The Four Hour Work Week)





10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey

10 things you must give up to move forward based on principles by Steven R Covey